Flying is a regular part of my life, but it has never been easy. As a plus-sized person, I have always faced a difficult choice: squeeze uncomfortably into a standard-sized airplane seat and inevitably encroach on the passenger next to me, or find another way.
I never want to make another traveler’s journey unpleasant. The idea of someone feeling crowded, uncomfortable, or resentful because of me is a constant source of anxiety. So, I made a decision: for my own comfort and, more importantly, out of respect for others, I would start buying two airline tickets.
On my most recent flight, I did just that. I booked a window seat and the empty middle seat next to it. This way, I could relax without worry, and the person in the aisle seat would have plenty of space. It was a significant financial cost, but for a peaceful and respectful flight, it was worth it.
I boarded the plane, settled into my window seat, and fastened my seatbelt, relieved that my plan was working.
Then, a woman with a young child approached my row. Without a word of inquiry, she quickly placed her child in the empty middle seat I had paid for.
I was shocked. I calmly explained that the seat was not free; it was mine. I told her I had purchased that specific seat for my personal needs.
Instead of understanding, she became loudly defensive and argumentative. She insisted that the seat was empty and that her child needed to sit there. The situation was escalating, and I could feel the stares from other passengers.
I had paid hundreds of dollars precisely to avoid this exact scenario—to ensure my comfort and the comfort of those around me. I was not going to give up the seat I had legally purchased.
So, I did the only thing I could to end the confrontation. I firmly but politely called over a flight attendant.
I explained the situation to the crew member. The flight attendant checked my ticket and confirmed that I was the rightful occupant of both seats. She then politely asked the woman to return her child to her own lap or to the seat she had purchased for them. The commotion ended, and the flight proceeded.
This experience was frustrating, but it highlights an important issue. Airplane seats are designed for a narrow range of body types, and many people struggle with them. My solution of buying two tickets is a personal choice that works for me, but it shouldn’t be necessary. The real solution lies with airlines designing more inclusive seating options.
Until then, I will continue to book two seats. It is my way of ensuring that my journey—and the journey of those around me—is as comfortable and conflict-free as possible.
